Sex Tips; Orgasms times four!

Is it true that there is more than one type of female orgasm?
-Curious in California

Well, in fact, there are at least four types of GENITAL (I’m not even going to start talking about breast orgasms, mouth orgasms, etc in this column) that women can have. Yes, you heard me right; they would be four, quarto, 4, to be exact.

The most common and most intense female orgasm is the clitoral orgasm, achieved by, you guessed it, stimulating the clitoris (for those of you unfamiliar with this area, a- get a mirror and check out your genital region, STAT, b- I’m sorry you haven’t found it yet, and c- it’s the bundle of nerves at the top part of your vaginal region, hidden usually by a small hood of skin…it has more than four times as many nerves as the ENTIRE penis, and has no no purpose other than to give a woman pleasure).

This type of orgasm can be facilitated in a number of ways; fingers, tongues, shallow thrusting (PS, when I say thrusting, or talk about positions… it doesn’t mean you need to have a penis; dildos and vibrators work just as well). A good position for a penetrative clitoral orgasm would be female superior (with her leaning forward, ie “riding high”).

The next type of female orgasm is that of the G-spot (nickname for the Grafenberg spot… try saying that three times fast), which as previously discussed, is located inside the vagina, about 1.5-2.5 inches (about 4 cm) in, on the top part of the vaginal wall (so if you’re lying on your back, it would be the ceiling side of the vagina). It’s not an anatomical area; you can’t draw a map to it, or point it out, but it feels kind of spongy, and becomes more engorged when aroused. This is a very high amplitude orgasms, washing over the whole body, and usually has a bigger build up. Stimulating the G-spot can be done by fingers, dildos, vibrators or a penis; sadly, unless you’re dating Gene Simmons, your partner’s tongue probably just isn’t long enough. A good penetrative would be the woman on top again, or rear entry (’fondly’ referred to as doggy style).

Then we have the vaginal orgasm, the orgasm people usually think of as the “intercourse orgasm”…but remember, tons and tons of women don’t come from penetration alone. This orgasm is preceded by either deep thrusting or deep finger stimulation, kind of in a filling up of the vagina. For a coital position that will work best towards having a vaginal orgasm, having the female on her back, with her legs raised, or bent up towards her chest, opening the vagina for a deeper penetration.

The last orgasm is something I just discovered… the urethral, or “U-spot” orgasm. When I say urethral, I don’t mean penetrating the urethra, I mean stimulating the urethra… you might not know this, but the nerves from your clitoris extend under the skin down towards the urethral opening… meaning when you’re stimulating it, you’re getting some indirect clitoral stimulation. When this is stimulated, you might kind of feel like you have to pee, but that’s normal, and no, you’re not going to pee all over your partner. Keeping a dull, yet constant pressure around the entire urethral area, not focusing on any specific spot (unless of course it feels amazing!). The best position for this kind of orgasm would be the lady on her back with her legs spread apart as wide as possible, and using circular thrusting.

Just some new things to try; since us ladies have so many exciting types of orgasms, I figured it be worth some exploring and experimenting.

Keep them coming!

Essin’ Em

For one of many helpful tricks… Nina Hartley’s Guide To G-Spot Sex:

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