Sex Tips; Valentine's and Singles Awareness Day

Happy Valentine’s Day… or Single’s Awareness Day!

It’s almost V-Day, and I have no idea what to do for my girlfriend, and not a lot of money… ideas?
-Broke in Brooklyn

I’m single, AGAIN for Valentine’s Day, and am so sick of it. How come there is a holiday for couples, and not one for singles?
-Single in Saratoga

As February 14th approaches, people’s hearts tend to fill with either one of two emotions; joy or dread. It all depends as to whether you’ll be celebrating Valentine’s Day or S.A.D. (Single’s Awareness Day for those new to the loop). Regardless, it’s a fun day if you approach it with a fabulous attitude, and I’ve put together some suggestions for everyone, depending on which situation you are in.

If you’re partnered, then this is the day traditionally reserved for you. Pink hearts, red roses, chocolates; these have all be designated for couples celebrating Valentine’s Day. Now, don’t get caught up in the consumerism; there is more to this holiday than how much cash you or your partner can plunk down on the table (remember, Green is for St. Patrick’s day, not V-Day).

This is a great day to let your partner know how much you appreciate them, and please note that not all gifts are available for purchase. Think about one of your favorite moments with your partner, and try to take the best pieces from it and recreate it. Had hot sex in a rainstorm? Try flickering candles and a CD of storm music. Been together since high school? Go find a lover’s lane to park your car, put on your song from that time period, and go back to the hot and heavy making out that you remember so fondly.

Better yet, listen, really listen, to your partner’s desires. Do they tell you how much they love having their back rubbed? Tonight, bust out the massage oil and rub away. Maybe they enjoy a certain genre of adult entertainment; girl on girl, oral sex, foot fetish; check out our collection of films, find one you think would be perfect, and have it set up for the beginning of an evening of fun. Set aside a few hours to just lie in bed together, and really explore each other’s bodies, to find out what each of you really like. Let this day traditionally reserved for lovers be just that; a day for lovers, to rekindle and re-stoke (I said stoke, not stroke, but that is just fine too!) the fiery passion which you share.

NOW! For you single ladies out there, please welcome me into your flock. I am single, but I am certainly not going to let Valentine’s hearts and powdered flavored candies get me down. Firstly, chocolate. Amazing food, and all over the place. Take some time to get a present for yourself; your favorite truffle, or one of those giant hearts. You are your own lover; give yourself a gift.

Next, if you’re anything like the average single gal, you’ve got company; lots of single gal pals. Make it a night! Last year, my closest girl friends and I dressed up in our fanciest dresses, and went to a dazzling sushi restaurant together. Granted, we were the only non-couple there, but we had more fun than all of the love birds put together, and we didn’t have to deal with the stress of *drum roll* VALENTINE’S DAY!

Think about what you and your lady (and single guy) friends like to do. Have someone host a passion party (what I like to refer to as a fucker-ware party), and turn it into a toy-shopping, drink making, love-bashing fling. Have games to see who can get the cherry out of a bowl of whipped cream the fastest (no hands of course) and who can fit the most Twinkies in their mouth. Share your favorite sex tips, and reveal embarassing sex stories that make you so happy you’re not still with that person. Talk about favorite positions, locations, fantasies, toys.

Go out dancing… anyone you meet that night is probably not married or dating, so you’re pretty safe that the hottie hitting on you is single as well. Catch a movie, go to dinner, do something that you love. Pamper yourself. This day is about love, and we all know that self love is the absolute best.

Whichever way you are celebrating February 14th this year, I wish you a wonderful time, lots of good company, and tons of love.

Happy Valentine’s or S.A. Day!

Essin’ Em

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