Masturbation For All! Part 1

I want to explore my body more, but I'm not sure where to start? Is there a special way to masturbate?

-Suffering Solo!

Masturbation is a subject that is traditionally not talked about as much among groups of women as it is between guys, probably because it used to be (and kind of still is) very taboo for a woman to masturbate at all, let alone admit it to another. Well, I'm reclaiming masturbation. I masturbate!!!! And for those of you women out there who do so as well, awesome! And for those of you who tried it, and it wasn't your thing, good for you! And for those of you that haven't tried it yet, hopefully this will encourage you to go give it a try if you feel so inclined. Ok, enough kudos... on to the juicy bits.

Tons of women masturbate. Kinsey's studies proved it, and Cosmo proves it in a more modern association. Women like to get off, it's true. There are TONS of names for female masturbation. Some of my choice favorites include; ringing Southern bells, clicking the five fingered mouse, crossing the mason-dixon line, visiting the little man in the canoe, tip-toeing through the two-lips, misstressbating and jillin' off, just to give you a little taste. The point it, you're not alone. Your friends (at least someone them) probably do it. Your co-workers probably do it. I hate to break it to you, but your mom has probably at least tried it. It is nothing to be ashamed about, and I think it's ridiculous that people don't talk about it. Masturbation, in my opinion, is amazing, and I want to share it's wonderfulness with everyone. And I'm starting with you.

The lovely thing about being a woman (well, one of many) is that when it comes to masturbation, you have a schmorgasboard of things to try. Studies have demonstrated that they have yet to find two women that masturbate in the EXACT same way, in the same order, etc. So see, we're like snowflakes. Masturbating snowflakes.

You can always give a go at the hand; an oldie but a goodie. There are all sorts of things you can do with your hand; you can use your fingers to stimulate your clit and lips at various speeds and pressures. You can use the palm of your hand to rub against your mons pubis (that cute little bump that is naturally covered with hair). You can lie on your whole hand and rub your body against it; there are so many things to try, and that's just on the outside.

While research says less than 2% of women masturbate ONLY using penetration, lots and lots of women like a little penetration with their outer stimulation, and we all know that we were born with fingers for a reason. You can play with the opening of your vagina, or stick one, two, or how every many fingers you want into it. Once inside, more choices! Move them around, bend them, keep them still. It's like choose your own adventure, except the ending is way more exciting. And remember, you have two hands, and a very advanced brain; you CAN multi-task. Some people also like to use one hand to play with their nipples, hair, lips, neck, ears, and more while doing it.

However, that's not all folks! There are tons of other ways to misstressbate (oh, check me using my favorite terms!). Have access to a bathtub with a faucet? Well, you're well on your way to joining the ranks of the O-army. Some women like to lay on their back with their feet up against the wall with the water from the bottom faucet running on their clit and other lady bits. I myself have a personal fondness for the massaging shower head (although I realize now that mine didn't move, and I had to do the back thing as well…but they sell ones that you can take off the wall and move around. How technology has changed things), and my friend's mother finally told me that she had discovered hers, and it's helping her get through her divorce.

Not into water? How about the women that rub up against things? You can place a pillow on a bed, couch, etc, and lie on top of it, rubbing against it. Or put on a pair of really tight jeans and straddle the arm of a couch (don't even get me start on tight jeans and washing machines…). Arm of a chair, corner of a rounded table, you name it; if you can rub up against it, I bet you some woman has done it.

As you can see, there are tons and tons of ways to get yourself off, all requiring next to nothing. It is very important to remember that this is you time; do what feels good to you, explore your body, try out new things. You might not always (or even ever) get to orgasm. If you do, great, but if not, remember that this is a journey, and shouldn't be goal based.

Oh, what's that? You wanted to know about toys? Well, I am a huge fan of all types of toys as well. But sadly, I only have so much space, and I want to keep you reading, so keep your eyes open for masturbation part two; toys, toys, toys!

Enjoy yourself!

Essin' Em

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