HotmoviesForHer.com News, Updates and Reviews!: January 2007

Sunday, January 28, 2007

And I'm back! Looking for sex tips suggestions!

I'm back (well, somewhat...I'm still chilling at home in bed with my cat...but I have internet now!) from my horrenous knee surgery, and am super psyched to be writing for Hotmoviesforher.com again.

If you have any suggestions for things for me to write about, whether a sex question you might have, or some sex tips you might need, please feel free to write me at em@hotmoviesforher.com

Happy Reading!

-Essin' Em

Sex Toy Review: Fire and Ice Pyrex Dildos

So maybe you’re a sex nerd like me, and want to furnish your living room with beautiful pyrex dildos in shadow boxes (and the sad part is that I’m not kidding). Or maybe you’re looking for a dildo that embodies class and beauty along side the main purpose of a dildo (and if you don’t know that, you’re probably on the wrong site). Either way, this beauty is among the holy grails of dildos. Firstly, it is stunning. Available either in clear or a gorgeous blue, this is a pyrex glass toy (read: UNBREAKABLE) with frosted flames climbing the sides. Next, it’s functionality. Sure, it can be used just like any other dildo. But there’s more! Like it a little cooler on your coochie? Stick it in the fridge before inserting it. More of a hot weather gal? Boil it or run it under hot water for a warmer feeling down there. And lastly, clean up is a breeze - you can even stick it in your dishwasher. It just can’t get better than that. There are many types of these pyrex dildos; different colors, lengths, bumpiness, etc, but they are all beautiful and amazing. So who wants to buy enough to outfit my living room?

-Essin' Em

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Sex Tips: Not Feeling So Hot?

I don’t know about you, but almost everyone (if not everyone) I know has some sort of problem with their body. Some of it is purely what they were born with; breasts too big, breasts too small, too skinny, too heavy, too big an ass, too flat an ass, too tall, too short, too much pubic hair, not enough pubic hair, a different shade of pubic hair, etc. Sometimes it’s something else, like stretch marks, scars, or an old tattoo from their 18th birthday when they thought hot pink psychedelic mushrooms were just too groovy for words. And sometimes it’s as a result of teasing or nicknames from when they were younger; a birthmark, too big of ears, larger hips, anything can be fodder for bullies.

Regardless, I have yet to meet someone that is 100% in love with their body, and moreover, 100% in love with the idea of their lover seeing their body naked under a few 100 watt bulbs. Not even your fearless sex columnist (ie, Me) is safe from body image fears. With my first partner, we fought over whether to keep the lava lamp/Christmas lights/computer screen on, because I was all about embracing the power (and visual safety) of the darkness. I was lucky enough to be involved in a production of the Vagina Monologues in which we took black and white nude pictures of the women in the cast, and that was how I started to appreciate my body, but not everyone has access to a trusted friend and private darkroom, and even so, I still have my own multitude of insecurities to work on. Hopefully, some of these tips and suggestions will get you on the path to loving your beautiful bodies… because I KNOW they are.

Firstly, stop focusing on the negatives. Yes, they may be what are concerning you the most, but negative thoughts aren’t going to take you in the right direction. What parts of your body do you love? What parts turn you on? What parts do you love to flaunt? Don’t you dare answer “left pinky finger” because I’ve been there, done that, and it’s just not worth it. Decide what are your best assets, and once you realize them, make them work for you. If you just love your ass, show it off; try some rear entry positions, buy some underwear that you think flatters your rear, ask for a butt massage. It’s your hair that is your hottest item? Run it all over your partner’s body, get yourself some delicious products that you love, toss it back in the heat of the moment. Work it; since you’ve got it, flaunt it.

Next, it’s time to learn your body. You’ll need hand held mirror (I love the swivel vanity one from my bathroom), a flashlight of sorts, your fabulous fingertips and your beautiful body. Turn out the lights (or if it’s cold, hop under the covers). Choose a location to start, and shine the flashlight on that section of your body, and if you can’t see it, use the mirror to check it out. Feel it; is it soft, sensuous, curvaceous, edgy, strong, fuzzy, rough, rigid, or…? Look at the beauty of that part as it stands alone. Once you’ve realize how wonderful each individual part is, it can help you see how amazing your body is as a whole. (By the way… if you haven’t ever had a chance to check out your… lady bits… with a mirror, now is certainly the time to do it. It’s quite an experience).

As to sexual activity with your partner, this can be daunting. However, I guarantee you that sex of any sort will be a lot more fun if you aren’t thinking about that extra few pounds, or skinny thighs, or whatever it might be. Also, it can be very nice to see each other, which is not going to happen if you are emulating a blackout during coitus. Start out slow; light a few candles. Just like everyone looks great in black and white photos, everyone looks great in candlelight. It’s been proven, and not just in every romance novel and chick flick ever written. Light some big pillar candles (and if you have kiddos or pets, make sure they stay far away, a good idea in general anyway), and keep all the electricity off. Explore each others bodies this way. Once you’re more comfortable with this (whether it takes a day or a year), try a little more light. Some suggestions; take a scarf or pretty piece of fabric and throw it over a lampshade (NOT directly on the bulb) and it will cast pretty, soft, colored light around the room; find some fun Christmas style lights in a theme you like - stars, flamingos, chili peppers, you name it; open the shades part way during the day, allowing the beautiful (and flattering) natural light to work its way in and set your body aglow; fuel your bearskin rug fantasies, and light a roaring fire to bask in front of (naked of course).

You don’t have to love every bit of your body; no one does. And you don’t have to have sex with every single light on. But your body IS gorgeous, and you shouldn’t have to worry about this or that while you’re trying to have hot, steamy, satisfying sex. I’m hoping these ideas help you enjoy your body more, so that you do feel more comfortable with yourself; whether alone or with a partner. And anyways, who doesn’t love sex with candles?Beautifully yours,

Essin’ Em

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Movie Review: Girls in White - 1

Hopefully, you’ve been reading Sydni Ellis’ column and are familiar with Girlfriends Films. If you haven’t watched their movies yet, then you can’t miss this one. The first scene in this movie, with Veronica Snow and Brea Bennett was nominated for a 2007 AVN Award for Best All Girl Sex Scene - and honestly, it had better win! The chemistry between Veronica and Brea is smolderingly passionate, and their nominated scene together looks real. There’s lots of kissing, sensual touching, hard grinding and oral sex that makes me jealous! After their first play session, they cuddle and Veronica gives Brea a ring… which leads to more kissing, grinding and orgasmic sex… And that’s just the first scene… This whole movie is amazing, the plot isn’t too heavy (everyone gets together for a lesbian coming out party - then they really get together) but includes some fun catty scenes as the women discuss the others’ dresses and who’s with whom, and each sex scene is satisfying long. Each orgasm is intense, and in the last scene with Sahara and Angela, the orgams bring female ejaculation… more than once. Very intense. Honestly, I could go into so much more detail over each scene and everything great about it, but my space here is so limited! This movie went far and beyond fulfilling my voyeuristic lesbain fantasies. I’m looking forward to Sydni’s sequel!
-Venus Vegas

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Movie Review: Bound

Ever wish that you could just go crazy and do whatever you wanted with your partner, whether it be hot wax, or swallowing, or tying him up? That’s all these guys want, just some girls who will do anything…but they just can’t seem to get anyone to work out for them. It was pretty amusing watching them stumble their way through the film, although it seems that they finally get what they came for. I enjoyed the variety of light kinks in “Bound” that are shown through out this film; very simple bondage, a little cropping here, some pain play there. Nothing too heavy, and yet still a great introduction into the kink world for someone who is nervous about watching a bunch of whips and chains, but still wants to learn more about kinky sex. It has a slight plot, plenty of fucking, girl on girl and guy on girl action. A little of everything for everyone’s tastes.
-Essin’ Em

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Movie Review; Backstage - The Movie

Lots of anal in this, but lots of hot sex fun! It describes itself as “the perfect opportunity to sneak a peek at what really happens behind the scenes”… to be honest I don’t know if that’s really true, but this is definitely enjoyable as it looks like everyone is having a grand time messing around, playing with each and of course, lots of sex. If you’re not into anal, you may want to stay clear as there’s lots, but if you’re in with anal action, it should serve you well. I’ve mentioned a million times before, but when I see people in porn having fun and enjoying themselves while they screw for my needy “eyes”, it completes the show. (Plus, I know the anal is good too!)
-Venus Vegas

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Thursday, January 11, 2007

Sex Toy Review: How to Choose the Right Condom Guide

We’ve told you about Crown Condoms before, but there are still so many out there! Babeland.com has an excellent guide to help:How To Choose The Right Condom

(Next week, we’ll resume with the really fun stuff, I promise!)

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Sex Toy Review: Dirty Dice

So you’ve read my other column on sex communication, but you still think it’s kind of hard to talk about sex, or at least tell your partner what you want? Well, lucky for you, Babeland offers these excellent sex dice. And get this; you can get them in English OR in Spanish (hey, I’m still holding out for German!). One die has an action on it (lick, suck, blow, etc) and the other has a body part. Roll them and get exact instructions on what to do to your partner (and vice versa for what they should be doing to you). This is a great way to discover new things that turn you on, that you might never have though about; ever had someone blow on your breast or suck on your…well, I’ll leave that up you and you imagination, and these sex dice of course!

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Sex Toy Review: Melting Passion Dripping Candle

Getting into sensation play and trying to decide what you need to try out? Make sure you put this candle (either in unscented red, or leather scented black) at the top of your list, because there are few things as sensual and wondrous as the feeling of dripping wax. These candles are a great way to try out wax play without any burns or injuries, as they are meant to burn at a lower temperature than most candles, and in doing so, are far safer than the votive on your bed stand. Wax can go almost anywhere (though I’d personally suggest keeping it away from long hair) on the body; stomach, legs, breasts, genitals, and more. It’s a great trust activity with your partner, and really helps to invigorate your senses. With two of my favorite colors and a choice of an unscented version, I’m definitely impressed with these candles, and suggest them to anyone that wants to play with the line between pleasure and pain.

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Sex Toy Review: Slimline Waterspout Vibe

Every girl should have a slimline vibrator of sorts, and over the years, I have narrowed down what makes one of these basic, slender, simple vibrators even better. This baby has two of the top qualities; a) it’s waterproof (which means even if you don’t feel like taking it swimming, it makes it MUCH easier to clean) and b) it has a small curve at the end for some G-spot stimulation (but not too much to make it too intense for beginners), which every woman could use a little more of, in my opinion. It’s easy to use; it only takes 2 AAA batteries, and has several different levels of stimulation. I like the black color (no pink vibes for me, thanks) and how easy it is to use, clean and store. Especially if you’re looking for something simple, practical and lots of fun, this is the toy for you.

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Sex Toy Review: NIPPLE CLAMPS!

If you have never tried some sort of nipple pinching device (whether basic, store bought clothespins or the more intense metal clamps), then without a doubt, you are missing out. Nipples of both parties are home to amazing sensations when being kissed, licked, sucked, and so on. Some people (yours truly included) enjoy the sensation of someone biting the nipples; well, these clamps mimic that sensation while leaving the other persons mouth available for other wonderful activities. These clamps are especially great because they’re adjustable. Just screw them one way to make them tighter, the other way for a looser, more comfortable feeling. They provide a great deal of wonderful sensations, both when they are originally put on, and then again as feeling comes back when you take them off. Definitely something fun to try; just please make sure you don’t leave them on for more than 20 or 25 minutes.

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Sex Tips: Making Safer Sex Sexy!

So what’s the deal with all this safe/safer sex stuff anyways?

In the last 20 years, the discovery and spread of HIV/AIDS as well as research produced on other STIs (sexually transmitted infections) has necessitated the use of safer sex methods with most sexual activity. It’s not the most fun thing in the world, but safer sex keeps you and your partner healthy and safe, and able to keep having hot sex over and over and over again.

Now, I know all the letters get confusing. Gnarly sex germs used to be known as VD; venereal diseases. Then the wording changed, and behold; STDs - Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Over the past couple of years, the term has changed to STIs, which stands for the Sexually Transmitted Infections that we now know.

EVERYONE who is sexually active is at risk, regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation (yup, even lesbians and bi girls have to practice safe sex too!). These infections don’t discriminate, they go after everyone. Activities which are generally considered at risk are cunnilingus, fellatio, vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse, and some say even manual stimulation (handiwork, fingering, jerking someone off, etc) on someone else can carry risks.

There are condoms. Condoms come two main types; male and female (yes, there ARE female condoms). All female condoms are poly-urethane, whereas male condoms can be latex, poly-urethane or lambskin. ONLY LATEX AND POLY-URETHANE MALE CONDOMS ARE PROVEN TO PREVENT THE SPREAD OF MOST STIs. While female condoms can provide a better barrier against herpes according to some studies, they’re not marketed to prevent STIs, and lambskin condoms do nothing against STIs. You can use condoms when giving/receiving fellatio (a blow job), vaginal sex, or anal sex. The condom needs to be put on BEFORE any penetration (pre-cum can carry infections as well) and taken off, tied and tossed right after you are done, before the guy loses his erection. If you put a little lubrication inside the tip of the condom, it’ll feel better as well. They make flavored condoms, and better yet, a whole ton of flavored lube if that’s what you’d prefer during oral sex; I know I prefer strawberry or mint to the distinctive flavor of latex.

For giving/receiving cunnilingus (eating out) or analingus (rim job), dental dams or non-microwaveable plastic wrap are your best bets. You can also use a condom cut in half length wise, or a latex glove with all the fingers cut off, and cut open at the thumb. Put some lubricant on the side that is going on the vagina or anus, and then stretch it out, and go at it. Again, I’m a fan of flavored lubes, but do whatever works for you.

As far as fingering, jerking off, etc (vagina, penis and anus), you can choose to use latex gloves and lube as well. It can make life a lot easier too if you have long nails, hang nails, calluses, etc - all things that might make your nether regions a bit sore.

Important things to remember; always use a new condom after ejaculation, use a new condom when going from anal intercourse to ANYTHING else, use a new dental dam/piece of plastic wrap when switching from analingus to ANYTHING else, NEVER use two condoms EVER (the friction between the two will make there more likely to break, so you’re WAY less safe), and make sure your lube is oil-free - Crisco, lotion, olive oil, etc (anything with oil in it) causes condoms to disintegrate, which kind of defeats the whole purpose.

If you’ve been in a relationship for a period of time, and have the birth control thing under control (if it’s even an issue), and want to practice safer sex without a barrier method, it’s time to get tested. Sadly, we’re not in grade school, and this isn’t a test you can study for, and depending on your insurance, it might run up a bit of money (although local health clinics such as Planned Parenthood tend to have sliding scale fees). The health care provider will talk to you (and your partner if you go together) about what infections you may have been put at risk for and will test for them. Most people choose to get tested for HIV, gonorrhea, syphilis, Chlamydia, herpes, and HPV (and in case you haven’t heard, HPV causes cervical cancer…pretty scary if you ask me). Sometimes you may have to come back to get tested, as different infections have different incubation times. Usually you can get the results over the phone, but some clinics may have you come in to pick them up in person. Either way, once you’re tested, you can see if you need to seek treatment for any infections you may have (and if you have a viral infection, you cannot cure it; rather the meds will help you get it under control). Once you have a clean bill of health, you and your partner can have latex (or poly-urethane) free sex! And you don’t have to be in a relationship to be tested; some people get tested on a yearly or bi-yearly basis (including yours truly) just to be on the safe side, and to know where they stand.

And if you do have an infection, that doesn’t mean you can’t keep having great sex. But it does mean you have to be extra careful not to infect your current (or future) partner(s). Also, there are many strains of every infection; just because you already have herpes doesn’t mean you should go practice unsafe sex with everyone who has herpes; you could get it AGAIN and have twice as many outbreaks, which would be no fun.

So keep it fun, sexy and safe. Watch out for yourself, watch out for your partners, and watch out for your friends. Spread the word, and have steamy safer sex.

The right selection is to protect your erection, and if you really love her, wear a cover!

Essin’ Em

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Sex Tips: I like the way you taste...

The Flavors of Love

We associate touch with sex, and visuals, and hearing our partners moan and pant, and some people even chat about the ’scent’ of sex, but far too many people miss out on one of our most important senses; taste.

There are many tastes involved with sexual activity, and no, I’m not just talking about oral sex (although that is definitely one of them). From the flavor of the chapstick on your partner’s lips to the salty tastes of sweat as you make out after some passionate lovemaking, taste permeates all aspects of sex. Some of the tastes are good, and some not so much, but this particular issue of sex tips will attempt to help you have a tastier treat the next time you and your partner are finding new ways to keep warm.

First and foremost, oral care (as in your mouth) is a must. Make sure you and your partner take the time (2 minutes or so) to pay a visit to your friendly neighborhood toothbrush. Not only will it make you far more fun to kiss (no one wants to kiss your lunch time garlic bread - they want to kiss YOU), but it’s healthy for your gums and your teeth, and will benefit you for years to come. Follow up with a flossing and some mouthwash if you have the time, but brushing is pretty crucial.

As far as skin flavor, everyone tastes different. Hopefully, you and your partner know how to turn on the shower, and so you’re relatively clean; if you have any taste issues, usually a nice shower or bath together can clear them up. However, some people want more; they want to tantalize their taste buds. Many sex shops and websites carry a multitude of tasty treats; cotton candy flavored dusting powder, mint flavored warming massage oils, chocolate nipple rub. I’ve tried many of them, and it’s usually a hit or a miss (see if you can find a store that has testers, so you can try before you buy). Flavored lubricant can be used to make oral sex a little yummier (and can take away the latex taste of a condom or dental dam if you’re practicing safer sex - just make sure it’s water based!).

But you don’t need to spend a fortune on special products marketed for delicious licking, you can use all sorts of stuff from around the house, or at the worst, from the local grocery. Chocolate syrup is always very popular, as are whipped cream and honey. It is important to keep sugary stuff away from the vagina (but the clit and lips are A-OK) as it can cause yeast infections and NOBODY wants that. Fresh fruit can also be a ton of fun; dribble the fruit and juices all over your lover and/or yourself, and have a banquet. Mix and match; strawberries and whipped cream, mangos and chocolate sauce, you name it. You can add champagne to the mix as well (again, be aware of the sugars). Also, please note that things that have oil in them (like chocolate sauce) should NEVER be used with latex (condoms, dental dams or otherwise) as it will melt them and render them useless. A frozen popsicle can be a ton of fun as it is rubbed up, down and all over your bodies. Like sushi? Have one of you be the nude table - you can even use the belly button for soy sauce. Be as crazy as you like; it’s all about what you and your partner enjoy, not about what others think.

Something that a lot of people are concerned about is their taste “down there.” This goes across the board; all genders and all sexualities; people are nervous about how they taste. There are a couple of solutions; you can taste yourself (hey, people including your fabulous author have done this… sometimes you just *have* to know), you can ask you partner, or you can try and look into ways to change your personal flavor. While people debate back and forth on different diets (some say vegetarians taste better, and as one, I’d like to agree, but others say it’s just propaganda from the cows and chickens), but there are some foods that most people agree have a definite effect on your taste. Some foods will make you taste more bitter or acidic, such as asparagus, garlic, heavy cream sauces and I wish I could say Brussels sprouts, but no. Others can make you taste sweeter or a little lighter in flavor, such as fruit - particularly citrus (I swear by pineapple; fresh, juice, or in a can). Supposedly, these work for guys and gals, but again, nothing is proven. They may not work for everyone, and a lot depends on both your natural taste, as well as how your partners taste buds. It’s important to realize that a lot of people LOVE the natural odor and taste of the vagina… some may even deem themselves vagina connoisseurs.

If you’re still uncomfortable with your taste, or that of your partner, try giving/receiving oral sex in the shower, or use safer sex methods like condoms and dental dams. Also, as mentioned before, there are all kinds of flavored lube on the market, and some of them actually taste quite good. Yes, I have had a lube tasting party with my friends; I wouldn’t lie to you. Just remember that they wouldn’t keep doing it if they thought you tasted bad, and that we’re all in the same boat here.

Well, I hope I’ve provided you some food for thought (and other purposes…), and with that, I give my farewell.

Wishing you fabulous feasting,

Essin’ Em

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Sex Tips: Big Penis + Small Vagina = It CAN work!

It’s kind of embarrassing to ask, but I have a pretty small vagina, and am really nervous about my new boyfriend who is more…well endowed. Any hints?
-Small but not timid

Although you probably wouldn’t guess, this is actually a “problem” I hear a lot, and something I myself have had experience with, so I’ll do my best to allay your fears and see if you get you to having fabulous, non-intimidating sex in no time!

Well, first of all, this is definitely a hard subject to broach; either with your friends, or with your sexual partners; and I know this from trial and error. Entering a conversation with “soooo… by the way, I have a tight pussy and…” tends to kill the mood, and your close friends may either break into giggles, or stare at you, eyes buldging, as they try to figure out if you’re joking, bragging, or asking for advice. You then have to get into the whole spiel about how “no, no, it’s not always a good thing, in fact, it CAN be a problem!” I was with a guy that was blessed enough that we had to stop after 10 minutes or so, because HE was getting sore. So I know your pain.

Firstly, I’ve found that it’s VERY important, as always, to be fully aroused before penetration. The more aroused you are, the more your vaginal tissues swell, and get squishy, which means they are more malleable, AND the vaginal canal balloons slightly during and after an orgasm, so this would be an ideal time to advocate for a (or a few) climaxes before his…manhood if you will, comes near your vagina.

Next, lube. I love lube. In fact, I’m considering investing in Eros’ stocks. You cannot have (well, I guess if you used the entire bottle… but otherwise you can’t) have too much lube if you’re dealing with a smaller, or tighter, than average vagina. Some guys pull the whole “but it decreases friction” thing; well, feel free to tell them exactly HOW much friction there is, and assure them that there will be a lot more friction with the lube than there would be without it, since you wouldn’t be having sex in that case. It usually gets them to be more understanding. So lube on up - this can be an extension of foreplay too; play with it, have both of you put in on and in, enjoy your and his fingers exploring, etc.

I’ve also found that positions can help A LOT. If you’re all about the missionary, place a pillow (or two) under your hips (also a great tip if it’s your first time with vaginal penetration, as you’ll experience less muscle ache and soreness the next day). By angling your pelvis this way, you’re placing your vagina in such a way that it can relax more, which allows it to be more mobile, and less tight, making it feel better, and able to enjoy it more when you are penetrated. You can open your legs, move them up or down; this position gives you a lot of diversity as to what you can do to feel better.

Another great position that I thought I’d hate, but I really enjoy and have talked to many women who feel the same way, is the one known as “doggy style” (although is more professionally called kneeling rear entry), where the person being penetrated is on their hands and knees (or you can cross your arms, and place them and your head on the bed/floor/etc so you make more of a triangle shape) and the penetrator is behind them. This position opens up your vagina a lot more, and makes it easier access for the person doing the penetration, so that they can feel more, and your vagina may feel slightly looser.

Hopefully some of these tips have helped; goodness knows it’s not the easiest subject to get advice on from others. However, this is definitely something to talk to your partner about. If they know some of your anxieties, you two can work together on figuring out the best way to have vaginal sex without you becoming sore, or hurting. Sex involves communication, and this is especially crucial at this time.

Best of luck, and have fun play genital Legos,

Essin’ Em

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Sex Tips: Masturbation for All - Part 2!

Masturbation For All! Part 2: Toys, Toys, Toys!

My hands and arms are sore from all my masturbation! Any tips on what else I use?
-Some say you’ll go blind, my arm just got tired

This is part two of last week’s column on masturbation. I discussed many types of masturbation, but there was a glaring hole in the writing; no talk of sex toys. Why? Because they’re so awesome that I decided they needed a section all to themselves. Now, I’m not saying that everyone needs toys, but they are definitely fun to try, and if you’ve been trying the masturbation thing, and think you need a little more, or if you’re an old hand at it (no pun intended!), toys can take you alone time to a whole other level.

Let’s start with definitions, I know all these crazy names can get confusing.

A vibrator is pretty simple; it’s a toy that vibrates. They come in MANY shapes and sizes. Eggs are egg shaped, and can be used for clitoral stimulation, or shallow insertion into the vagina. Usually they come with a cord that is attached to the power pack. Different eggs have different types of settings. Some just have 2 or more levels, some have a dial that you can use to turn it up and down, and (my personal fav of the eggs) have different “programs,” so you can have fast pulses, slow pulses, roller coasters, random, and more. Eggs can be made out of plastic, rubber or silicone.

Then, there are your traditional slim-line type vibrators; these are long and relatively thin (although they do make them in thicker versions as well), and are slightly tapered at the top. These are usually made out of plastic, although sometimes they are made out of silicone or rubber. Most of them have a twist knob at the bottom that you can use to turn it up or down. Many women use these for insertion, but of course they can also be used for clit stimulation. They tend to be a little less powerful than the eggs, so it depends on what you’re looking for.

Next, we have the family that I like to call the rabbit vibes (although they now have all sorts of animals on them) that were made popular by Charlotte on Sex and the City. These have a main shaft, and then an animal of sorts (a rabbit with ears, a dolphin tail, a panther nose, etc) that when the shaft is inserted, rests directly on your clit. These vibes are silicone or rubber, and usually have two different control settings; one that directs how fast the clit extension vibrates, and the other controls the shaft settings. Some shafts vibrate, others have beads in them that move or rotate.

Lastly is my absolute favorite of the vibrators is the wand vibrator. The main one is the Hitachi Magic Wand (see my review), but other companies make them as well. They plug in to the wall. That’s right, no batteries needed, they carry 110 volts. AMAZING. Now, if you only like a little stimulation, this probably isn’t for you, unless you put a pillow, blanket, or something in between you and it, but I personally swear on this vibe. It has a plastic handle with a two-speed switch (high and higher!), and then a soft, almost microphone shaped head. You can place the head anywhere on your body (nipples, mons, etc), and on your lips and clit. Additionally, they made attachments of different sorts for penetration; smooth, bumpy, g-spot stimulating, etc. Just be warned that if you used it during a rainstorm and the power goes out, you’re going to be one unhappy camper. Other wise, I am in love. With a piece of machinery.

Next, we come to dildos (and many vibrators are mistakenly put in this category). Dildos, which can be plastic, silicone, rubber, or the stunning pyrex, are long, phallic shaped (though not all are made to look like penises) toys which are meant for insertion into the vagina or anus. Sometimes called dongs, these are the things you see in movies that DO NOT vibrate, and are usually used when women are masturbating and are pushing it in and out of their vagina and/or anus. You can use a vibrator and a dildo at the same time (or for that matter, two vibes at the same time); feel free to be creative. A note; the only dildos that should be used for anal play are ones that have a flanged base (far larger than the tip), because unlike the vagina, the anus is a hungry beast, and will suck things up into it, far into your rectum and beyond, and you don’t want to have to explain to the ER doctor why you’re doubled over in pain. Anal plugs can also be used during masturbation; just again, remember, the bigger the base (not the toy itself of course), the safer you are! NEVER put an egg, or any corded toy in your anus, as the cord can break during removal.

Now there are all sorts of other toys you can use, many of them you can use with a partner (dual vibrators, double dildos, remote vibrators, nipple clamps, etc) as well as with yourself, so I think I’ll do a different column on toys with your partner, so keep an eye out for that.

In the mean time, let’s have a quick talk about cleaning your toys. Firstly, if you’re going to share your toys, use condoms on them. Yes, you can transmit STDs and other germs (and you don’t want a bacterial infection there, I promise) by sharing toys. Also, if you’re going to use a toy in your anus, and then in your vagina, condoms are definitely needed. Other wise, just clean them regularly. Glass dildos are easy; you can boil them. Plastic toys you can rub down with rubbing alcohol, or soap and water (just keep away from battery compartments). Silicone and rubber toys need soap and water; alcohol can dry them out. And as a side note, using lube on your toys is a great plan, just NEVER use silicone lube on silicone toys; it WILL melt them, and then no more toy.

As far as buying toys, many bigger areas now have female and couple friendly adult stores (many with toys out on the counter with batteries in them to let you know what they feel like) that are well lit and fun to shop in. Still nervous? There are TONS of awesome online sites (that bill with non-descript names) with lots of choices, and customer reviews. Our favorite is Babeland.com - VERY female friendly.Happy Hunting!

Essin’ Em

Lots of toys means lots of choices! Here’s a whole category of videos to help you: Instructional: Toys, or if you can’t decide, we offer you The Ultimate Vibrator & Dildo Guide:

Movie Review: Hand of the Law!

I love guys in uniform. I love guys with English accents. Together? I almost don’t even need to see the sex… but it’s a big plus! It starts with one woman taking care of more than a handful of officers in her bedroom… more focus on the men, but they’re cute so I could watch them wank and get wanked all day (well, at least during this movie). The next scene brings in a lady officer (nice twist) performing a (professionally unnecessary but sexually silly) strip search revealing some fashionable briefs. You can guess it just heats up from here. The next female officer isn’t quite as nice, and her strip search leads to a strap-on, gentle yet dominant. A new Mr. Officer is back in the next scene #4, which is the most sensual yet (and my favorite). In the end, a couple hot partners sneak off and do their own dirty private investigation… My only complaint? American police uniforms are way hotter.
-Venus Vegas

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Movie Review: Sybian Rides 4 Cash - Jordan

I had previously heard of the Sybian but was never quite sure what it was, nor why there was all the hype about it. However, after watching “Sybian Rides 4 Ca$h - Jordan,” I am a convert, and desperately hoping to find my very own one of these machines. I loved the idea that this film portrays; imagine getting paid to just keep on coming…and coming…and coming. It’s a vibrator, a dildo and a whole lot of fun rolled into one. I can’t believe that I haven’t gotten to watch any movies like this before. It’s certainly opened my eyes and piqued my interest in the glory that is the Sybian; vibrating machine extraordinaire. If you’re a woman that likes to try new things and gets off by watching others get off, then this is without a doubt the movie for you. And even better, there are several similar movies by the same company, so you get even more bang for your buck…if that’s what you’re looking for.
-Essin’ Em

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Movie Review: Whore of the Rings!

I have to say that honestly, this has been without a doubt one of the most entertaining adult films I have ever had the pleasure of enjoying. “Whore of the Rings” is clearly a parody of the infamous series of books and movies, and for a pornographic spoof, it does a wonderful job! For those familiar with the originals, it is quite amusing to see this take off. Central earth is in danger, and it is up to Gangcock to help Frobo and his companions save it from the evil, yet sexy, Dark Overlord. I love that the ring instead of causing pure madness causes lust and insatiability of the wearer; definitely a great take on the plot. Some parts of this film are more funny than sexy, and you definitely need to realize that a sense of humor will help a lot. But from the interesting sets to the B-flick special effects to the hilariously redone plot, this movie is definitely worth a watch, ESPECIALLY for other nerds like myself who loved the original LOTR and are amused by most things.
-Essin’ Em

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Movie Review: Nina Hartley's Guide to Sex

As relatively innocent in relation to the field of anal, I was looking for a video that would explain and/or demonstrate the basics of anal sex without being too intimidating. I didn’t want a gang bang or a play party or some queen of anal; I just wanted plain, good old-fashioned anal sex. Just as I was about to give up, I found “Nina Hartley’s Guide to Anal Sex.” It was my anal salvation. She’s amazing in how she talks about sex; very accurately, disarmingly and always with a sense of humor about everything. I love that she starts with diagrams of the female body, showing exactly where the finger, and later penis, would be going. They started very slowly, first just playing with the anus, working their way up to a glove, lubricated finger, and finally all the way to the anal intercourse. It really made the movie fun and interesting to watch, and it made anal sex seem a lot less rough and tough, and far more enjoyable. I recommend this movie for EVERYONE, particularly those people interested in trying any sort of anal play, either alone or with their partners. This film keeps it interesting, fun and safe, and certainly isn’t ass-inine.
-Essin’ Em

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Movie Review: Water Bondage #9

Water Bondage. Bathtubs, hoses, dildos, rope ties and more. This movie was completely eye opening to me; woman on woman domination and forced orgasms via water. You can’t even compare it to anything. “Water Bondage #9″ wasn’t a film I thought I’d be particularly interested in, but I just came across…in passing. However, the way the scenes are played really drew me in; I love the way the relationship between the two women is played out. I also really liked that at the end, they had both women talking to the camera about the intricacies of water bondage, as well as to show that both women were ok and had enjoyed what had happened. Although I stumbled across this film by accident, I can’t believe how interesting and arousing it was, and I really enjoyed it. It was so different, so new, and yet so erotic and sensual at the same time. I never will be able to see a garden power-sprayer in the same light. Wonderful choice for the adventurous female looking into trying something different!
-Essin’ Em

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Movie Review: Sappho's Girls #1

Even though I'm straight, I can love me some girl-girl porn! Most of what I've seen is from the mainstream, so it's not even really "real" lesbian. Sappho's Girls blew me away… the girls are so sensual, yet not boring. They look like real, un-pornified girls, but are still super cute and attractive. Plus, it's shot in my ultimate favorite style - the girls do their business as if the camera wasn't there, so it's basically like you're watching 2 people getting it on for themselves. Each scene's couple is different. The first couple is heavy on the kissing and loving, and I love kissing. The second couple gets things going a bit more quickly and is a bit more vocal in their moaning and squealing (the redhead also has amazing tattoos all over her whole body). The last couple is very soft and teasing, and finishes with a strap-on - a nice mix-up for the finale, yet not too harsh. Definitely a great pick for when I'm in one those sensual moods (or just in the mood for some lady love)… So good I didn't even miss the cock (unfortunately I can't say the same thing for real life)!
-Venus Vegas

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Wednesday, January 10, 2007

2007 AVN Award Nominees

Let's Hear It For The Girls!

Saturday night, January 13, is the 2007 AVN Awards (as I mentioned in my last spotlight), and I have the privilege of attending with Homegrown Video. The awards showcase the industry's best, and I'd like to take this opportunity to highlight the females nominated for their directing, writing, and producing - male domination be damned!

Check them out, and keep your eyes peeled for the movies we don't have yet!

Best Director - Film:

Jenna Jameson

Vivid Entertainment Group

Best Director - Foreign Release:

Best Director - Non-Feature:

Kimberly Kane

Naked and Famous