The Eyes have it!

Apparently, we choose our mates based upon their eye color. Well, only if you have blue eyes. If you have green, brown, hazel, grey, etc, you're a lot less picky. Good for you.

According to an intriguing note in New Scientist for 20 January 2007, a team in Norway has found that, when shown a series of photographs, men with blue eyes were much more attracted to pictures of women with blue eyes than to images of women with brown eyes. On the other hand, neither brown-eyed men nor brown-eyed women showed any preference for eye colour when they were shown photographs.

It appears that the distinction also holds in real life. Blue-eyed men are more likely to become romantically involved with women who have the same eye colour and choose them as partners, claim the researchers.

Blue eyes are acknowledged to be a recessive trait. Two blue-eyed parents should produce a child with blue eyes, whereas the parents of a child of any other eye colour cannot both be blue-eyed, the researchers say. Unconsciously knowing this, a blue-eyed man will tend to choose a partner of the same eye colour so that he is more likely to know if his partner’s baby is the result of a liaison with another man.

Funnily enough, I just realized that all my relationship partners have had brown eyes, and all my sexual partners had blue or green eyes. My eyes change color with my mood - what does this say about me???

Essin' Em

Read the whole shebang in The Pharmaceutical Journal

Movie Review: Stripped

Stripped

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Studio: Playgirl DVD Category: Hetero Couples

Yum! Hot guys bringing all sorts of delicious fantasies to life from sex outdoors (in a bathtub to boot) to romantic trysts by the pool, to the real estate agent turned naughty, to my personal favorite; a hot boy and his hot rod, sharing a moment (he’s jacking off, watched by a bobby-soxer, unbeknownst to him). Each vignette is done a little differently, with either a sexy female voice over revealing an erotic fantasy, a first person account (as with Evan Stone as he plays Lancelot), or a really cool almost interview with Randy Spears, as he speaks about how he enjoys women, particularly those who can mentally challenge him. The cinematography is also well done, and while there are certainly cock shots, the focus is on their whole bodies, and their faces as they climax, something I really enjoy seeing. Also; major bonus is condoms - hurray for safer sex! All in all, a fun movie that balances *real* sex with delicious fantasies, an excellent combination.
-Essin’ Em

Movie Review: Real Female Orgasms

Real Female Orgasms

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Studio: Elegant Angel Category: Female Ejaculation

Women. Orgasms. Women having orgasms. That is this film, both in a nutshell and in its entirety. Some come on their own, others from being fucked with fingers, a cock (or two) or toys. Hot pussy eating plays a part as well, and of course, there are a few cameos by vibrators. It’s pretty much beautifulagony.com, but with full body shots of the women climaxing. Damn. It’s one of the only films I’ve seen that is solely about the woman’s orgasms - it doesn’t wait for the man to ejaculate; the woman climaxes, and it’s on the to next one. Clip to clip, there is no plot, no full scene o’ sex, just women orgasming here and there and everywhere. Some scenes show female ejaculation for those who are interested, and to my surprise (and happiness), a couple of the guys are even wearing condoms. If you love watching women get off, this is the film for you. A great way to get excited (by yourself or with a partner), or to just enjoy the beauty of the female orgasm.
-Essin’ Em

Sex Toy Review; Krystal Vibe

Krystal Vibe

To be honest, I was more than just a little wary of The Krystal Vibe. It was long, thick, and more then a little intimidating (not to mention pink, and we all know how I feel about that). I’m a big proponent of the “size doesn’t matter…and if it did, big things come in small packages” faction, and wasn’t exactly sure how I felt about this larger vibrating dildo even nearing my nether regions. I like my toys a little more petite, like the Ruby Slipper or the Purple Twist and while the Krystal Vibe certainly wasn’t quite as large as the Double Trouble, it was still a bit more than I thought I was ready for.

It sat next to my bed for a week or two, still in it’s package. I had to get my vagina used to the idea of it, the size of it, the look, the color. Friends visiting would ask me where exactly I thought I was going to be putting that (many know about my more petite size down there), and laughed when I told them I’d never backed down from a challenge, and that this wasn’t going to be my first time. 

Well, once I finally got to the point I was ready to try it, I inserted my batteries, added some lovely lube, and gave it a go. Let’s just say that all that apprehension was for nothing. With a bit of lube and lots of being turned on, the Krystal Vibe was perfect, and fit me in all the right places, and also made for a good external vibrator as well. Personally, I used a condom with it, because it’s made of jelly rather than silicone (meaning no boiling or sterilizing it), and would suggest that to others was well. It wasn’t *quite* as stiff as I’d like it to be, but it’s flexibility definitely kept me on my toes. Another interesting feature is that it is in fact water proof, so this vibe can be taken for a shower or a bath. 

It comes in two sizes; thick and slim. As much as I enjoyed the challenge of the thick version, I’d like to give the slim a go at some point; it’s really up to personal preference. It works really well with an additional vibrator for the clit, like the Silver Bullet or the Wanachi Vibe since I needed a little extra stimulation to get off. All in all, a decent, inexpensive AND waterproof vibe that is a great starter. 

-Essin’ Em 

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Movie Review: San Francisco Lesbians 8

San Francisco Lesbians 8

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Studio: Pleasure Productions Category: Lesbian

MMM. It’s always nice to completely dyke out with hot lesbians. This movie has something for everyone; butches, femmes, studs and everything else you could ask for. The first scene is super hot in a medical setting, with Bucki Young (daaaaamn) clinically examining her patient, helping her orgasm by exploring her deeply and completely. That was without a doubt my favorite scene, although I also enjoyed the two dildos, three women and a couch threesome in the next scene. Next, there is a foursome in which life sized dolls come to life, and I love the tongue in cheek humor the dolls use to fuel the fantasy, but the main character’s voice starts to grate on the nerves after a bit. However, I like all four scenes, enjoyed the variety of lesbians that were the talent in the film, and thought the scenes and plots were interesting and not old or overdone. I’m excited to check out the rest of the movies in this series!
-Essin’ Em

Sex Tips: Masturbation, Party of 2!

I wrote a while back on all the different and exciting kinds of masturbation for women, and have been so excited to read online about how many women are re-claiming, and acknowledging masturbation, and how many more have just begun to discover it, and themselves, in the process.

 

But then my elation was short lived…I started seeing questions on online sites about “at what point in a relationship should both parties stop masturbating?” and “I caught my partner masturbating - does that mean s/he doesn’t love me anymore?” This seems to be a sad trend that has just begun to really take off.

First of all, you should never have to stop masturbating just because you’ve gotten into a relationship. Lots of people have healthy relationships in which one (or both) of the partners masturbates on a regular basis. Goodness knows with my libido, some weeks I’d go crazy if I couldn’t get myself off (other weeks, sex is more blasé), and I’m not going to call my partner at work 10 times a day because I just need to get off a few more times, and would feel guilty if I did it without them. Masturbation is normal, healthy, and helps you learn what you like, so that you can help your partner(s) learn what turns you on. 

Another great way to bring masturbation into your relationship is to watch each other masturbate. I LOVE watching people I’m attracted to get themselves off. Not only is it incredibly hot and super sexy, but then I can see exactly what they like, and store it away for future reference. If your partner is ok with it, see if you can participate as well. I really like to put my hand either over or under their hand, so I can feel how much pressure they like, what motions they go for, what kind of touch they like. No one knows better how to touch someone than that actual person. Plus, this way, you can watch their face, and see their body as they get more and more aroused, and if they decide to climax, it’s beautiful. Sometimes one partner might be a little shy, so certainly don’t force it, but once you try it, you both may discover so many new and exciting things about each other! 

Mutual masturbation is also a super fun and pretty low-risk activity. You and your partner can either lie down together, and each work on getting your own pleasure, or do a snazzy arm crossover, and stimulate each other. This can be used as foreplay, a learning experience, or a sexual activity in itself. It’s super fun, feels awesome, and again, you will both learn so much about each other. 

I think masturbation is amazing (clearly) and can’t see why anyone would want someone else to stop doing something that made them feel so good. It certainly doesn’t mean they are any less attracted to you. There are many many many reasons for someone in a relationship to masturbate. Maybe they are just really horny, and don’t want to bother you every single time they’d like to climax. Maybe they like that masturbation is an activity in which there is no pressure to perform well, to be a certain way when they come, to do everything perfectly. Maybe they like a variety of sensations, and really enjoy the particular feeling they get when they masturbate. Sometimes, one partner has a much higher libido than the other, and is fine with taking care of themselves rather than cause issues in the relationship. I’m sure there are tons more reasons! 

The only time I would worry about masturbation in a relationship is if one or both of the partners feel that masturbation is hindering other sexual activities that both partners used to enjoy. If you or your partner decide to use masturbation to avoid sexual activity between the two of you, then maybe there is an issue, and this is where more communication comes it. Why is there that avoidance? Did something happen to make sexual activity together awkward? Are there other big stressors in the relationship that might make one of you want to avoid sexual time together? These are definitely things that warrant discussion. 

But if both are you are happy with the amount sexual activity you’re having together, then I fail to see why masturbation is an issue. If I came home to find my partner going at it, I’d ask if it was ok if I jumped in and either helped out, or got myself off! I hope all of you are enjoying all of your masturbatory experiences, and don’t feel bad about you or your partner masturbating - it’s just part of a healthy sex drive! 

2-4-6-8, let’s all go and masturbate!

Essin’ Em

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Sexiest Vegetarian

So other than the fact that it has the word "Sexiest" in the title of the contest, this really doesn't have *that* much to do with sex. However, since Venus and I are both vegetarian, and it's the beginning of summer, you'll have to forgive me. Mmm....sext vegetarians.  Go vote!

PETA's Sexiest Vegetarian Contest

Yay for veggies!

-Essin' Em

The Bi Apple

• The Bi Apple

  

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  Studio: Adam & Eve Category: Bisexual

  Bisexual movie, huh? I wasn’t quite sure how that was going to be any different than a mainstream straight movie that had some lesbian action here and there. I couldn’t have been more wrong. This movie was hands down amazing. It was extremely sex-positive, and featured talent outside the general norms of what you see in porn. The people in the film seemed to genuinely enjoy the sex they were having, and the orgasms were loud, deep and real - no fake it till you make it in this movie.

  I loved the idea of setting it in ‘the Fuck House’ in NYC - a place where people of varying orientations and high libidos can live, fuck and have an all around good time. There were excellent toys, including the sexy metal NJOYs I’m dying to try out (please, feel free to send me one to review!), and the strap-ons made for some super hot scenes. How many movies have you seen a guy practically beg his female partner to fuck him in the ass? HOT! Besides, there is a sexy female sex super hero, with a arsenal on her belt of dildos, butt plugs and more. I can’t think of anything more enticing. 

  Written, directed, and produced by Audacia Ray (an empowered feminist with an interesting and exciting view on sex), and starring one of my favorite actresses, Simone Valentino, this movie gets two thumbs up (and a couple of erect penises too while we’re at it). The only thing I would have changed about this video was to make it chock full of safer sex, but we all know my fetish for condoms and dams. That aside, this was a great film I recommend to everyone, regardless of experience, orientation, or bandwidth. And the question must be asked; I’m a sexologist; how come things like this never happen to me???
  -Essin’ Em
  

Movie Review: Porny Monster

Porny Monster

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Studio: VCA Category: By Women

Joanna Angel is back, and her movie is as fun and fabulous as ever in “Porny Monster.” While the sex, as always, is hardcore, hot and edgy (I’ll come back to that, don’t worry), what really made this movie were the sets, the costumes and the make up. I was so envious of most of the outfits, and I loved loved loved some of the super interesting and unique things that were done with make up. As far as shooting on location; sex in a nightclub, with the music pounding and lights flashing, has definitely made it on my new fantasies list. As usual, there was a steamy pairing between Joanna and her real life fuck toy (and partner) James Deen, and the chemistry showed. And as is true to Joanna Angel, there was hot topless dancing. And when I say dancing, I’m not talking about club dancing, I’m talking about rocking out to good music while taking off clothing and jumping around the living room. Everything I hoped it would be, and more!
-Essin’ Em

High tech undies. That is all.

I...I can't think of anything really witty to say. It's underwear. Meant to protect sperm from cell phone radiation. It's just...yeah. Enjoy.

The press is all over the growing fears about WiFi and mobile phone radiation, with newspapers and cheap ITV mini-series' hyping it all up beyond reason. Still, if you're one of the cautious, wealthy few who still loves to look good beneath your clothes then salvation may be at hand.

Developed by Swiss designers, the Slipways underwear range is made with threads of silver to help fend off harmful radiation from devices such as mobile phones.

The Slipways briefs are said to be so effective that any phone calls made in the confines of the underwear will completely fail to connect, though why anybody would try to make a phone call from within a pair of Swiss briefs is beyond us.

Apparently 4000 pairs have been hammered out thus far, each of which will sell for around $24 USD (around £15), though there's little detail on when paranoid tin-foil hat wearing fools can expect their metallic underwear to thud onto the market on an International level.

And we thought the lead aprons when we get x-rays were annoying...

Essin' Em

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Movie Review: the Love Doll

The Love Doll

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Studio: Danni’s Hard Drive Category: By Women

What is a poor and lonely housewife to do with her afternoon? Never fear - the deliveryman arrives with a giant package, and for once, it has nothing to do with big penises. Rather, a life sized Love Doll is delivered, and the housewife (played by the beautiful, naturally curvy and hilariously witty Penny Flame) has found herself a play toy she wants to keep for life! There is some good times to be had by both ladies (a little pussy eating here, a little fingering there), and then the Doll explains how to use a strap on and harness. The housewife catches on quickly, and the two of them continue to get it on. It’s just a short, but quite amusing (especially the laugh track), and they definitely seem to be having a ton of fun. I like the sets as well, and the merge from black and white into color. A fun film, good for pretty much anyone!
-Essin’ Em

Boys can be daddies too!

And who said that it's not natural to be gay? These flamingos are as natural as nature gets, and a male-male couple, and seem to be doing just fine! It's also proof that gay males can hold down a long term relationship - these two have been together 6 years! That's longer than all of my relationships put together!

A pair of gay flamingos have adopted an abandoned chick, becoming parents after being together for six years, a British conservation organisation said Monday.

Carlos and Fernando had been desperate to start a family, even chasing other flamingos from their nests to take over their eggs at the Wildfowl and Wetlands Trust (WWT) in Slimbridge near Bristol.

But their egg-sitting prowess made them the top choice for taking an unhatched egg under their wings when one of the Greater Flamingo nests was abandoned.

The couple, together for six years, can feed chicks by producing milk in their throats.

Looks like they're going to need a sequel to "Heather has two mommies"...

Essin' Em

Read more about the proud parents at edgeboston.com

Movie Review: Mon Cher Sherry

Mon Cher Sherry

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Studio: Vagabond Entertainment Category: Lesbian

This one is a quickie but a goodie. It’s short (21 minutes), but in that time, these real life lesbians fit in some hot pussy eating, a sexy strap on session, a little bit of vaginal fisting, some time with a double sided LIGHT UP vibrators, and then they finish up with a large double headed dildo (with one having it anal style, and the other in the vagina). These women are definitely pleasure oriented, rather than aiming for any goals, and you can just see how much they are really enjoying themselves. There is a little bit of role playing as she opens to the door to the plumber, but that whole bit of acting falls to the way side as she informs her “plumber” that this job is going to require some “special tools” and gestures to the table covered in sex toys, and that’s when all the action begins. I especially like that at the end of all this unbelievable sex, they take a little time to cuddle on up to each other.
-Essin’ Em

Pleasure Vs. Goal Oriented

My partner thinks it’s really important for me to orgasm when we’re together, but sometimes I just like playing around, and don’t really feel like coming. It doesn’t mean I’m not attracted to or in love with them, and I’m still aroused and having fun, I just don’t want to come. Is something wrong with me?
-Pissed off in Pittsburgh

 

What a wonderful subject to bring up…I’m so glad you wrote in, because this is something I’ve been wanting to write about for a while. This “dilemma” (if you even want to call it that) revolves around to two types of sexual interactions we tend to have in our society; goal oriented versus pleasure oriented.

The way we are brought up in our society, everything is goal oriented; get straight As, make a lot of money, find a partner to bring home to the parents. The other part of these situations seems to get discarded. People don’t usually say “learn as much as you can, it’s ok if you have a 3.0 GPA,” “find a job that you love, even if you can barely make rent,” or “just date lots of people to help find yourself, learn more, and have interesting experiences.” 

Because of this cultural norm, we tend to view sex in the same goal oriented way; the orgasm is all powerful. Particularly in regards to the male; in our society, sex is traditionally not over until the male has climax. I mean, can you see a woman orgasming in the middle of vaginal sex, hopping off her partner, rolling over and going to bed, while he was still erect? People would think it was ludicrous! Why? Because the orgasm has been made to be the goal of sex, and anything less than achieving that is considered failure. 

In the past few years (decades even), people have argued that it’s just as important for a woman to climax during sex as it is for a man. While this is a good step towards equality (all parties in all relationships should be enjoying themselves!), I feel that this has also had a negative effect. With some partners (of all genders) try to be “good” partners, the female orgasm has become almost a quest towards the holy-grail, something that “must” be completed before sex is over. I had a partner in college that saw giving me orgasms as a power trip, and even though that sounds delightful, it wasn’t. It was as though he cared more about my orgasms than about me, and whether I was enjoying myself. Sometimes, I told him I’d love to play with him, and get him off, but I didn’t really feel like having a orgasm, and he took it personally, as though I was attacking his masculinity, or rejecting him. 

While I definitely appreciate the “everyone, women included, should get to orgasm during sex” ideal, the reality for all genders is that sometimes, the orgasm isn’t want we want. We want to make out, to be sexually active, to have company, to be loved, to enjoy someone else’s body, and that’s it. We don’t ALWAYS want to get off, and some people don’t seem to understand that. Rather than looking at sex solely as a means to an orgasm, we should look at all sexual interaction as pleasurable, fun and exciting, and enjoy everything we do. 

On another front, there is the sexual stair step model (or the “bases” as you may have called it back in high school). What is my problem with “running the bases?” Firstly, it’s a predominantly heterosexual model, and secondly, it’s very restricting. It starts with kissing. Then gropage. Then fingering/hand jobs. Then oral sex. Then vaginal sex. However, it seems as though once you go up a step (or run a base), you can’t go back. For example, if you enjoy making out, but then you move upwards to oral sex, it’s “weird” to want to only make out, and stop their. Similarly, once a couple has had vaginal sex, it’s as though they can’t have oral sex and that be it during future liaisons. How many times have I heard someone say “well, it was ‘just’ oral” or “all I got was a hand job?” Far too many. All kinds of sexual interactions are great in their own way, and people should do what they enjoy, and not what society tells them is the proper thing to do in the right order. 

Now, maybe this is partially because I love oral sex, but honestly, why does having had vaginal sex mean that you can’t “just” have oral sex (whether or not to orgasm)? How come couples that have been together for months or years feel that they can’t just have an intense 3 hour make out session? And a little rant on the definition of sex; why is sex always defined as vaginal intercourse? Because I think that having your head in someone else’s crotch can be just as, if not more intimate than intercourse. And ask any woman that has had a good and proper finger fucking - she’ll tell you that is definitely sex as well. 

So in short, no, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you at all. You and your partner just have different ways of looking at sex; you’re more pleasure oriented, and your partner is a little more goal oriented. Tell them what you told me, that it isn’t a reflection on them or how you feel towards them, and then talk about what does make you feel good, and what both of you enjoy. Hopefully, both of you can think of some things that you both love, and will be able to heat it up in the bedroom (or kitchen, or bathroom, etc). 

Remember, life is a journey, not a destination. Sex should be the same way,

Essin’ Em

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Movie Review: Nina Hartley’s Guide to Younger Men Older Women

Nina Hartley’s Guide to Younger Men Older Women

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Studio: Adam & Eve Category: Instructional

Two of my all time favorites stars, Nina Hartley and Kurt Lockwood, can be see in this movie (sadly though, they don’t do a scene together…), and it’s part of Nina’s educational series, so I knew going into it that it was going to be excellent, and it was. As always, she begins by talking about the subject matter. In this case, it was sexual relationships between younger men and older women. I love that she goes in depth about the sexual, personal, and emotional aspects, and I also really liked how she extolled the virtues of older women, not from the “MILF” point of view, but from the mature and experienced, therefore amazing, point of view. Once she’s done with the basics, then it’s on to the practice portion; clearly, her having super steamy sex with a younger guy. And like everything she does, she does it well (and so does he!). Next, we have Kurt and Amber Lynn, and they obviously have some electricity between them, as they have a sexy scene together that made me wish I was in my 40’s, just so I could get a cute younger guy! Fabulous movie.
-Essin’ Em

Gender; No longer either/or

For most of us, we've never had problems deciding which bathroom to use, which box to check on the standardized test, or trying to figure out why our genitals didn't match our gender. Why? Because most of us identify as Male or Female, Man or Woman. However, throughout the world, there are millions of trangendered people that do not fit into the little boxes that society gives to us. This month, Newsweek wrote an article titled "Rethinking Gender." Finally, a mainstream publication acknowledges that there are more than two genders!

To most of us, gender comes as naturally as breathing. We have no quarrel with the "M" or the "F" on our birth certificates. And, crash diets aside, we've made peace with how we want the world to see us—pants or skirt, boa or blazer, spiky heels or sneakers. But to those who consider themselves transgender, there's a disconnect between the sex they were assigned at birth and the way they see or express themselves.

Though their numbers are relatively few—the most generous estimate from the National Center for Transgender Equality is between 750,000 and 3 million Americans (fewer than 1 percent)—many of them are taking their intimate struggles public for the first time. In April, L.A. Times sportswriter Mike Penner announced in his column that when he returned from vacation, he would do so as a woman, Christine Daniels.

Nine states plus Washington, D.C., have enacted antidiscrimination laws that protect transgender people—and an additional three states have legislation pending, according to the Human Rights Campaign. And this month the U.S. House of Representatives passed a hate-crimes prevention bill that included "gender identity." Today's transgender Americans go far beyond the old stereotypes (think "Rocky Horror Picture Show"). They are soccer moms, ministers, teachers, politicians, even young children. Their push for tolerance and acceptance is reshaping businesses, sports, schools and families. It's also raising new questions about just what makes us male or female.

What is gender anyway? It is certainly more than the physical details of what's between our legs. History and science suggest that gender is more subtle and more complicated than anatomy. (It's separate from sexual orientation, too, which determines which sex we're attracted to.) Gender helps us organize the world into two boxes, his and hers, and gives us a way of quickly sizing up every person we see on the street. "Gender is a way of making the world secure," says feminist scholar Judith Butler, a rhetoric professor at University of California, Berkeley. Though some scholars like Butler consider gender largely a social construct, others increasingly see it as a complex interplay of biology, genes, hormones and culture.

I find the whole concept of gender identity very interesting, and hope that y'all learned as much as I did.

Essin' Em

Read more about gender idenity in Newsweek at msnbc.com

Movie Review: The Devil Inside Her

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Studio: Gourmet Video Category: Classics

What do you get when you cross Little House on the Prarie, the Crucible, and the Princess Bride? It seems to end up with "the Devil Inside Her," a fabulous movie from the 70's with the original adult entertainment goddess herself, Annie Sprinkle. This film starts a little slowly with some choppy acting, but it certainly picks up when the poor innocent farm girl is given lashes by her father for sharing an unchaste kiss with a farmhand. It gets more interesting when her sister calls upon the Devil to help her steal his love away from her sister, and fuck her instead. As a porn film in general, the characters are great, the sex is fun (and amusing), and it's quite enjoyable. Moreover, given the fact this movie was made years ago, the entirety of the set, the plot, the acting, etc, is quite impressive. I highly recommend checking out this film, especially for those of you who like a good plot, a domineering father, a damsel in distress and a villainous vixen. What more could you want?

-Essin' Em

Sex Mapping USA!

If you were jealous that you weren't around to have your history(s) taken for the Kinsey report, never fear! The Museum of Sex is doing a project called "Mapping Sex in America." You too can be a part of this super important study!

The Museum of Sex invites you to participate in its national project, Mapping Sex in America. Record your personal sex history and become a part of this ongoing archive chronicling Americans' stories of sexual practice and the evolution of America's sexual customs.

Mapping Sex in America takes our private stories and allows us to share them in an environment that encourages our contemplation. What are our boundaries? Prejudices? What turns us on and what offends us? What are the implications in terms of sex education, crime prevention, and disease control?

From the mundane to the passionate to the scandalous and everything in between, these stories have the capacity to captivate us, heal us, and educate us; but perhaps most importantly they connect us in a colorful world heretofore shrouded by the conventions of discretion.

I'm about to go enter my own personal history...hopefully none of my co-workers will be looking over my shoulder. Come on, participate, it's for the good of human kind!

Essin' Em

Click here to go map your own personal history

Movie Review: Black Velvet - Toronto

Black Velvet - Toronto

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Studio: OSK Productions Category: Features

Who would have thought that a hearse would be so sexy? But contrary to all thoughts regarding death mobiles, this hearse is hot. Black Velvet seems to bring good luck to all those who ride in it - good sex karma that is. Hot sex scenes with threesomes, steamy couples, and even a good vibrator fucking all result from the magic of the hearse Black Velvet. The stars of this film are real; no silicone, no fake orgasms, no photo shopping anything, which makes it that much more enjoyable. I really enjoy getting to see real people fuck. I thought the used car salesman was hilarious with his witticism and quips, but he did grate on my nerves a little by the end of the scene. However, a great movie to watch alone or with your partner, especially if you’ve ever had a fantasy about getting it on in a hearse…because that’s basically what this movie is all about.
-Essin’ Em

PornForPeace tonight in NYC

DUDE. PornForPeace is doing a ROCKING fundraiser in NYC tonight www.myspace.com/pornforpeace. They're raising money for the victims in Dafur.

Featuring: Buck Angel (the first mainstream FTM porn star), the girls from BurningAngel.com which are basically hot girls who do what they like and not what society dictates, drag queens, fetish models, Molly Crabapple, a live burlesque show, and more.

I'm hoping to be there - I have purple hair...come find me!

Is anyone else going? Hot people, a good cause, what more could you want?

-Essin' Em

Movie Review: Girls in Rhythm

Girls in Rhythm

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Studio: AbbyWinters.com Category: Lesbian

As always, there is a fond place in my heart for adorable girls with delicious Australia accents, and as always, “Girls in Rhythm” does not disappoint. This is its own genre of lesbian movie; real lesbians (and real in every sense of the word; real breasts, pubic hair, real orgasms, and so on) having a wonderful, loving, feel good time together. For those of you looking for some sexy butch-femme pairings, you’re in the wrong place, because these girls are definitely on the femme side, but it’s a wonderful film with tons and tons of making out (they don’t lose their pants in the first scene until a good 10 or 12 minutes into it), caresses, etc. I love the way women treat the whole body as a sex organ. Instead of focusing all their time and energy on the breasts and vagina, they skim their hands and lips over stomachs, thighs, hips, calves, everywhere, to make their partner’s ecstasy a full body experience. This is not hardcore, but it IS hot, and now all I want to do is find a cute girl with a hot accent, and make out in bed all day.
-Essin’ Em

Movie Review: Wishful Thinking

Wishful Thinking

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Studio: Sin City Category: Features

This movie starts out a little strangely (who the hell has sex on a silver box), but is a really fun film, especially to watch as a couple. There are some super hot solo girl masturbation scenes, and the chemistry between all of the couples in here is definitely sizzling. My favorite part is that two of the couples use condoms; hurray for safer sex! The last scene is especially hot, and I can see why Chloe Nichole has won an AVN award in the past for her adult acting skills. There is some great pussy eating and finger fucking throughout the film, as well as sex indoors, outdoors, and even traditional sex in bed. Over all, a great film, especially for couples or women just getting into porn. It’s not really hardcore, there is a decent bit of a plot, and the sex is definitely sexy!
-Essin’ Em

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-Essin' Em

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naked ruggers!

Recently, the Oberlin College Women's Rugby Team created their second calendar, depicting pictures of the team playing rugby. Oh yeah, and they happen to be mostly nude while doing it. No 'naughty bits' are exposed at any point, and larger non-college rugby teams have been doing these calendars for years. However, these women seem to have stirred up a bit of controversy...

“In a society that brands female competitive sports athletes as masculine, this calendar parodies the standard beauty myth, by juxtaposing the concept of the seductive and submissive pinup with images of women who assert themselves not only as strong athletes, but also as empowered women.”

I've played my share of rugby — I came out on a rugby team, and it was like my own platform 9-3/4 to the lesbian world. Our team talked about doing a nude rugby calendar to sell as a fundraiser, just as these teams have done. We were sick and tired of all the "Feed Shane" images of women. We wanted to see muscles and abs that rippled, not skin and bones.

Besides, naked is nothing new to the average rugger. Have you ever done a Zulu? Like swimming and wrestling, rugby is a sport that seems to attract people in a hurry to get naked, usually just for some harmless fun. The flip side, of course, is that some people think any nude shot of a female athlete is just wrong and degrading.

Having posed for nude photos in college to promote women's club hockey, and to fundraise for the Vagina Monologues, this is nothing new to me, and I say all power to them...but I'd like to know what you all think. Let's start some dialogue people!

Essin' Em

Read the article and voice an opinion at AfterEllen.com

Sex Tips: Sex Out and About - Public Sex

Hey Essin’ Em! My partner and I are turned on by the idea of having sex in public, but aren’t sure how to enjoy ourselves without being arrested! Any ideas?
-Exposed in Exton

Exhibitionists eh? Sounds like you’re my kind of people! I’m so glad that not only have you two discovered something that you’re both really excited about, but are thinking ahead enough to realize that even great sex is not worth jail time on your permanent record.

 

However, don’t be discouraged! There are lots of ways you can get off in public ways without buying yourself a free ride in the back of a police cruiser. I’ll enumerate a few here, hopefully to get the mental juices (as well as the ones down below) flowing, and then you’re off to get off. 

Something that is super simple and easy is sex in front of an open window. What floor of the building you’re on changes the risk of being caught/seen; as the floors get higher, the risk gets lower (clearly, fucking against the glass on the 20th floor of a high rise is less likely to be noticed than oh say, an ass or two pressed against the floor to ceiling French doors on the first floor of a 3 bedroom in the suburbs). You could live your blind open during sex, or go so far as to back light yourself to create a sexy silhouette show for the neighbors. Whatever you decide, it’s relatively low risk, as long as you’re inside your own place. 

Another fun place to try is the park, although I’d personally recommend more of a wilderness type park (state, national, etc) than a local park with a playground - they’re less crowded, and you won’t scare young children. I’d suggest bringing two blankets; one to lie on (no one wants to get an allergic reaction, or ticks/stinging nettles, etc, on their vulva), and one to cover up with (again, the point is sex in public, not getting arrested). If no one is around, then rock out without the blanket, but if you’re in a more populated place, it’s a good way to get it on without everyone knowing (although some people will, regardless). 

If you have a balcony or veranda (or are staying at a hotel with one), that’s another great place to try some public lovin’. For the lower-risk takers, you can hang a towel over the railing, so people can only guess and assume should they happen to look up, or you can just go for it. Again, the higher up you are, the less likely it is that people should just happen upon your sex scene. 

I’m a huge fan of any type of sex outdoors (park, balcony, parking lot, etc)…the sun shining down out you as you reach your climax is just heavenly, and thought I have yet to try it, I hear sex in the rain is fantastic (albeit a bit chilly). Just make sure if you’re going to be outside and naked, you think about the elements; sunscreen, bug spray, and so on. 

Sex on the beach is also a popular outdoor activity, but I myself am a little wary of this one. Why? I like my vagina sand free, to be perfectly honest. On the other hand, the sounds of the waves crashing could be divine as your orgasm washes over you. I hear that while one blanket is better than none, two blankets are WAY better than one for keeping the sand away from your delicate bits. Just keep an eye out for crabs, and not just the sexually transmitted ones! 

I’d love to have library sex, in the stacks of books. This one is a little less feasible, especially in a general public library. They tend to be super busy, and have lots o’ little kids wandering around. My solution? Find your local college library. Best time to go would be around 9am on a Saturday morning; it will be almost completely empty, guaranteed. Wander around until you find the most hidden section of books, the ones that look dusty and like no one has touched them in years. This, my loyal readers, is your place. A little too risky for you? Try a study room - most schools have them for group projects, but if they’re empty (and on a Saturday morning, they will be), they provide the exhibitionism (most have a window in, or don’t lock, or both), without the danger of having a poor, innocent freshman or elderly librarian discovering you. If you go with the stacks idea, I would think a skirt/dress/other form of clothing that provides easy access would be a good idea. 

My ultimate exhibitionist fantasy? Sex in an ice rink (this probably stems from the years of figure skating and hockey I did growing up). Not ON the ice per se (someone very wisely pointed out that sex equals sweaty, and that sweaty people would get stuck to the ice, which doesn’t sound very appealing to me), but either up against the boards or in the penalty box (especially if I’ve been a bad girl). However, unless I seduced the zamboni driver, I’m not exactly sure how to pull that one off. If you know a cute zamboni driver, please please please let me know! 

So basically, sex in public can be whatever you want it to be, and can be super safe or way risky. Talk with your partner about what you’re hoping to get out of it, and then enjoy baring your butts for the world. And stay out of jail, or at least don’t tell the police that I suggested public sex! 

See you out and about,

Essin’ Em

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Joy of Spex - Mae and Kathleen

Joy of Spex - Mae and Kathleen

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Studio: Joy Productions Category: Lesbian

I found this movie by accident, I’m not quite sure what I was looking for, but I thought one of the actresses had really cool hair, so I gave it a try. What a little piece of hidden treasure! Not only is this good, real and hot lesbian sex, but throw in a little domination to the mix, and I’m a VERY happy girl. There was some sizzling chemistry between these two girls, and the power play between them was some of the hottest I’ve seen. Once the strap on came out, and the sucking and fucking commenced, I had decided that this was the best accidental video selection I’ve ever made. It’s a short but sexy film with two cutes girls that are decidedly dominant and submissive. Just long enough to get you all kinds of hot and bothered!
-Essin’ Em

Movie Review: Carnal Limbo Book the 1st

Carnal Limbo Book the 1st

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Studio: Venus Girls Productions Category: Kinky

To be honest, I’ll admit that I’ve had a fantasy here and there about having a guy to use for my own personal private sex. In fact, I am willing to bet that lots of women have thought about this at one time or another. Well, in “Carnal Limbo Book the 1st”, these dreams become a reality as Nicki Hunter and Mika Tan tempt, titillate and torture their poor male slave. They own him; body, mind and soul (cock too of course), and keep him on the verge of climax as they make him strain to get them off. This is not a heavy kink movie; while there are handcuffs in one scene, and a little furry paddle, there is not really any bondage or pain - it focuses mostly on these women using this guys for their pleasure, and just totally being in control. I thought the movie was really hot, and loved the sexy black and red outfits as well. Definitely an exciting movie for anyone who has ever fantasized about being in total control over a man.
-Essin’ Em

Sex Quiz!

Like everyone else in this world of the wide web, I am addicted (addicted I tell you!) to internet quizzes and surveys (I mean, come on, who isn't?). Today, I came across this AWESOME "sexual literacy quiz" put on by the National Sexuality Resource Center. Check it out, take it, and let me know what you get. I, of course, got an A, but only 92%...but only because I mis-read a question...no, really!

Essin' Em

Take the Sexual Literacy Quiz at the National Sexuality Resource Center

Movie Review: Torn

Torn

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Studio: Nicholas Steele Productions Category: Features

There is something just deliciously naughty about having sex with certain items of clothing still on, and this movie has lots and lots of that, with ladies leaving their gloves on, and the gentlemen wearing nothing but a hat. The class of the 40’s, with the sex of the 21st century collide in “Torn,” which features an all-star cast, beautiful sets, gorgeous costumes and Holly Wellin’s endearing accent. Vignettes of sex are broken up by girls night in with a few drinks, which provides a bit of a plot. I really like the first scene; the lovely lady leaves on her shoes, stockings, and even underwear (and gloves of course) for fucking, and it’s sexy as hell. A fun movie with lots of sex and enough humor to make for a good adult flick. Quite enjoyable!
-Essin’ Em

Exciting New Studio! Fatale Media

HotMoviesForHer.com has just signed a new studio; the wonderful and fabulous Fatale Media. This is hot, steamy, real and amazing sex; lesbians that enjoy sex decided that they wanted to make movies that they would actually enjoy. I had the pleasure of watching two of the movies last night : After School Special & Turn Me Up Over and On . Holy mother! These are some HOT movies...they certainly have a place in my top lesbian pornos that I've seen.

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Check them out, and happy hump day!


Essin’ Em (em@hotmoviesforher.com)

Sex in the Stacks!

When you go to a library, you may expect to be "shhhhhhed," but I bet you'd never expected to get to listen to hot sex over the phone while lounging amoungst the books.

Vienna's City Hall has launched a "sex hotline" to raise money for the capital's main public library, officials said Tuesday.

It's unusual, but it's not particularly raunchy: Callers pay 53 cents a minute to listen to an actress read breathless passages from erotica dating to the Victorian era.

City Hall set up the hotline earlier this month to help the library raise cash for planned remodeling and expansion, Austrian media reported.

Anne Bennent, a famous Austrian stage and film star, reads passages from the Vienna library's collection of 1,200 works of erotic fiction from the 18th, 19th and 20th centuries, the library said.

While I have had many a fantasy involving sex in the library, none of them have involved phones, famous actresses, or paying money. I guess there is always tomorrow!

Essin' Em

Read all about the library sponsored sex hotline

Movie Review: Lesbian Punk

Lesbian Punk

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Studio: Sappho Love Films Category: Lesbian

This movie might be foreign, but the concepts portrayed in it are certainly not. These two girls like to come, and come they do, several times for each of them throughout the movie - I completely lost track of how many orgasms they had. They fuck every which way, except with toys, showing us that women have all they need to get each other off again and again, no batteries needed. There is almost not talking in this film, just grunts and moans, so if you might be looking for a plot, this is probably not the movie for you. However, there is lots of hot and real lesbian action, and lots of ink for the tattoo aficionados out there. If you are like me, and like watching girls suck, rub, hump and fuck each other into orgasmic frenzies, then you should find this film to be wonderfully arousing.
-Essin’ Em

Exclusive Interview with the AMAZING Hollie Stevens!

That's right, Hotmoviesforher.com has gotten its hands on a exclusive interview with none other than the multi-talented Hollie Stevens. Read about her most embarassing moment, what she'd do if she were president, and much much more.

While you're there, check out my newest column on my favorite thing to do; KISSING!

And as always, lots of new movie reviews are up.


Have a terrific Tuesday!

-Essin’ Em (em@hotmoviesforher.com)

Movie Review: College Student Lust 4

College Student Lust 4

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Studio: Philly Amateurs Category: Amateur

I actually found this particular film when I was perusing for “Philadelphia” movies (having been a recent transplant to the city myself, I was interested in what kind of “Philly Porn” was out there). I figured college kids and Philly would be fun to watch, and I was right. I was transported back to my years in college, the time of the blank white walls, and squeaky bed springs (although I’m not sure how many college students have all white sheets, and I certainly did NOT have a double bed in MY dorm room), where sex was fun, a little awkward, but fun. I really enjoyed how much this couple truly enjoyed each other. There was lots of kissing (before, during and after), and laughter from both of them. The orgasms were real, and there was no fake moaning, or head throwing, just a subtle clenching of the bed sheets and a few mentions of “Jesus Christ” and “holy moly!” The sex is not the most phenomenal I have seen, but it is real sex between real people, and this movie made me smile, if nothing else. I kind of wish I was back in college now…ok, no, not really.
-Essin’ Em

Sex Survey Results!

Results have been released regarding an online poll about sexuality, and there are some interesting numbers (like 70% of women masturbate at least occasionally, 2/3 of women have faked an orgasm, and 94% of women enjoyed reciving oral sex) that don't really come as much of a suprise to some of us. But some facts were totally not what I expected...

A recent poll conducted online where people tend to answer more honestly because the Internet provides a veil of privacy, found 11 percent of women have never achieved orgasm during sex. Though 90 percent of women say they are orgasmic, only 22 percent always have an orgasm when making love. Another 31 percent often have orgasms, 15 percent reach climax half the time and 22 percent do sometimes. More than one third who responded report having multiple orgasms, and nearly two thirds admit that they have faked orgasm.

Most respondents said they aren't shy about initiating sex or telling their partners what they want: 90 percent sometimes initiate sex, and 84 percent talk to their partners about their sexual preferences. Yet the majority - 61 percent - do it only rarely or occasionally. Disturbingly, however, nearly half of the respondents reported being sexually abused--a figure that is frighteningly high.

An overwhelming 95 percent of women report they've had oral sex performed on them, and 94 percent find it pleasing. Ninety percent have performed oral sex on a partner, and 72 percent find it pleasing.

Of the younger folks surveyed, at least 65 percent of students say they have learned about sexually transmitted diseases and contraception in a high school sex education class, yet one in four students (25 percent) surveyed say they haven't had any sex education classes. More than half of students (56 percent) surveyed say if they are having a sexual health problem such as a suspected STI or pregnancy, they talk to a friend or peer counselor first. Nearly 60 percent of the students surveyed discuss sexual histories with sexual partners prior to intercourse. Most students (74 percent) agree that sex and contraception should be discussed in advance. However, when questioned about their first sexual experience, both men (34 percent) and women (24 percent) say that sex wasn't planned, and that things went further than they expected.

While it doesn't talk about the merits and disadvantages of the survey, amongst whom it was conducted, etc, it is still definately interesting to check out.

Essin' Em

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Sex Tips; Pucker Up!

This week’s column is on something very near and dear to my heart, but that I don’t think gets enough lip service in today’s culture; Kissing.
-Essin’ Em

Some people say kissing is over rated, others see lip love as solely a means to an end, a foreplay that “has” to be done, in order to get onto more important things, like S-E-X. But seriously? Kissing needs to revered in its’ own right. Kissing is one of the most arousing, intimate and sexual things you can do. I can make out for hours on end, and while often, yes, it can lead to something more, it’s also quite enjoyable to just have a hot and heavy make out session with someone whose company you happen to enjoy.

 

As far as mutual kissing, everyone kisses, and likes to be kissed, differently. Some like it softer, others are into rougher and harder kisses. Saliva is a big deal for some, and in other cases, it’s a huge turn off. In my experience, I’ve found that people kiss the way that they’d like to be kissed; if someone lips a little biting, or a nip on their lip, that’s how they’ll kiss their partner, because they want to get that back. 

There are some kissers that are less popular than others; the first person I kissed, way back in high school, had the unfortunate condition that I fondly refer to as “vacuum lips.” When we kissed, I felt like my lips were being sucked deep into a vortex (also known as my partner’s throat). While this type of kissing may be the cat’s meow for some, for me, it just wasn’t my ideal….yet I suffered in silence until we broke up. Why? Because I thought that it was just a foreplay thing; it shouldn’t really matter if I enjoyed it or not. 

Well, that was a dumb plan. Because has I talked to my partner about what I had liked, or even shown what I wanted by guiding their lips to *not* devour mine, I could have had far more enjoyable times making out, instead of dreading the lips of doom. But by not speaking up, and not giving kissing its proper level of importance, I was totally missing out on what turned out to be one of my favorite things to do. 

Now, kissing does have to involve lips, but it doesn’t have to be lip-to-lip always. Your lips will feel amazing pretty much anywhere on your partner’s body (and vice versa of course. If you’re in more of a sensual mood, light kisses all over the neck, ears, collar bone, and down the stomach, just barely brushing your lips over their skin. More heated and passionate? Use you lips to nip here and there, to shower breasts and nipples with love, a little bite on a hipbone, a rougher, passionate kiss on the neck. Taste your partner and let them taste you. 

The feeling of someone’s lips covering every area of your body sets your nerve endings absolutely on edge. You might get goose bumps, even if it’s not cold. You might be inspired to do the same to your partner. After some hot (or cold…don’t be afraid to change the temperature of your mouth with ice cubes, hot tea, etc…or even make it tingly with mints, or crème de menthe!) kisses, the two of you might end it there, or you might decide to go on to some other types of sexual activity. Either way, you’ll feel amazing…I guarantee it. 

So what’s the hold up? We should slow down on the yapping, and give kissing the lip service it deserves. Really. 

Smooches!

Essin’ Em

See how kissing should really be done; Kissme Girl - Brea and Loli:

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Movie Review: Porn Stars From Mars

Porn Stars From Mars!

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Studio: Starr ProductionsE Category: Features - Humor

Aliens. Hot aliens. Covered in green latex body paint and with purple hair. Can porn get any better than that? This B-flick movie features female aliens from Mars in search of cute males. While waiting to discover interesting male life, the queen and one of her ladies in waiting get down to business, probing one another with sex toys, and let me tell you, you have not lived life until you see an alien orgasm. Ok, well, maybe you have, but it was still hilarious. I love adult movies that do not take themselves too seriously; from the intentional bad acting, to actors playing multiple characters, to the green slime sliding across the screen, to the purple nipples; this movie is HILARIOUS. Plus, any movie that features Ron Jeremy as the President of the USA is going to be awesome. A fun soundtrack, some funny and outrageous sex scenes, a random plot that tends to fold back on itself…you just cannot find porn like this anymore. Great movie, tons of fun, a big thumbs up!
-Essin’ Em

Feminism and Stripping?

An interesting opinon piece about feminism and sex work (specifically stripping). Sarah Katherine Lewis is one of the most interesting and intelligent writers I've ever read (and Venus Vegas and I had the pleasure to meet her at the $pread Magazine Party in NYC), and has many things to say about the correlation between stripping and feminism.

The argument goes like this: By using sexual stereotypes professionally, by "owning" them (using them consciously), and by "subverting" them (choosing which stereotypes to exaggerate and which to discard), a sex-working woman is participating in a feminist reclamation of both personal and economic power. Her deliberate use of gender-drag turns wearing a g-string and gyrating on stage -- or behind glass -- from an act done merely to pay her rent into a strong, assured and transgressive statement more akin to political performance art. You can't objectify me -- I am objectifying myself, shrewdly and self-consciously, in order to obtain power through money, and control through being considered sexually desirable.

It's almost as if sex work is the most feminist thing a women can do -- because if women are objectified every minute of every day against our will and without any personal benefit, why not grab the reins on that process and make a decent living wage at it? If women's bodies belong to everyone, some feminists argue, why not be the ones to profit from our own bodies instead of being consumed for free?

If we're going to be forced to sell regardless, we may as well name our own prices and take comfort in pocketing our own net gain. It beats working a minimum-wage job forty hours a week while performing a second, unpaid, full-time job as visual erotic entertainment for society at large, simply by existing as a female in the world. Why not demand payment for that second shift?

And, as it turns out, that second shift pays far more than minimum wage -- and all you have to do to claim your paycheck is to agree to perform a ritualized acknowledgment of your status as entertainment by revealing your body or performing sexually. Goodbye polyester smock and plastic nametag -- hello tuition payments!

Whether you agree with her or not, this is an article worth reading. Many people you know might be in the industry in some way or another; I'm always intrigued to find out how many current/former sex workers I know. As a feminist, and someone working (albeit behind the scenes) in the adult industry, it's always refreshing to hear things from this point of view.

Essin' Em

Check out the entire piece at Alternet.org

Movie Review: Evil Pink

Evil Pink

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Studio: Belladonna Category: By Women

Belladonna is sexy, but I was not sure if I could handle an entire movie with her, since she is well known for some of her more…extreme…antics. However, not to worry. This movie as a little more on the mainstream side, and features some amazingly hot scenes between ladies. My favorite pairing of the movie was between Belladonna and Cytherea (well known for her tendency to ejaculate when climaxing) - their chemistry together was downright amazing, and their scene was long, steamy and awesome. Good pussy eating, some squirting, a little anal play, and some really hot and heavy making out, which I really appreciate in a good film. Belladonna genuinely loves women; she loves kissing them, their breasts, their pussies, their bodies, their softness, getting them off, everything, and her amazement and adoration of the women in this movie is passed on to the viewer. I loved these women too, and wish I could have been there right beside them. Originally unsure what to expect, this movie delivered big, and will be enjoyed by anyone that like scenes with hot women really getting off.
-Essin’ Em

Prehistoric Sex!

So apparently, humans have been having all kinds of crazy, non-monogamous, non-hetero, non-reproductively aimed sex pretty much since the beginning of time. Does this mean we're regressing and becoming more and more repressed?

Practices ranging from bondage to group sex, transvestism and the use of sex toys were widespread in primitive societies as a way of building up cultural ties.

According to the study, a 30,000-year-old statue of a naked woman - the Venus of Willendorf - and an equally ancient stone phallus found in a German cave, provide the earliest direct evidence that sex was about far more than babies.

“So much evolutionary theory promotes the idea that humans, particularly women, are preprogrammed for monogamy, but that is often simply overlaying science on a preexisting view of society,” she said.

They're basically saying that humans have always been kinky, have always had lots and lots of sex, and always have used sex toys. This is new and different?

Essin' Em

Read more about this at TimesOnline.co.uk

Movie Review: Lots More Intimate Moments

Lots More Intimate Moments

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Studio: AbbyWinters.com Category: Solo Girls Masturbation

As we all know, I LOVE masturbation, and as much as I love doing it, I also really enjoy watching others masturbate, and this was the movie I wanted to see. It consists of lots and lots of hot Australian ladies (accents) getting themselves off, and the ladies from down under definitely know how to get down! This film has the girls using their hands and fingers to get off, unlike some films that are fairly toy heavy (and I am partial to both). It is absolutely adorable the way the girls talk in the scenes with two of them. It is almost as though they are a little nervous for the camera, as they banter about matching underwear, their first times, and compliment each other (and their tattoos and so on). I really enjoyed the dual girl scenes (not that I didn’t like the solo girls, but I have a special place in my heart for mutual masturbation). A wonderful movie with real girls, masturbating the way they actually do (rather than for some kind of show) and climaxes as real as they come. Definitely a hot movie to watch, whether by yourself, or with a partner. Enjoy!
-Essin’ Em

One Nation, Under Dildo

I pledge allegiance to PFLAG, and the United Gapes of America. And to the pubic hair for which it stands, One Nation Under Dildo, with sex and frivolity for all.

If only our national anthem sounded something like that...

What do you get when you give a sex worker a dildo, a glue gun, sequins, paint, and a thread and needle? Art, of course! $pread magazine, the now two year old magazine by and for sex workers, is unveiling more than forty decorated (and mutilated) dildos as part of its second annual art exhibition Sex Worker Visions.

Sex workers in Cleveland, Chicago, Toronto, Montreal and New York got together in their respective cities with craft supplies and dildos to make phallic creations that look like muppets, WMDs, and disco balls ... sometimes all at once. The larger show features a whole host of Fleshbot crush objects as well: Annie Sprinkle, Molly Crabapple, Zak Smith, and Vena Virago are all showing pieces about working in the sex industry.

Dildos - not just for vaginas and ass play anymore - there is so much more to them than just that. What would you do if you made an art project out of a dildo? I think I'd do a sword fight...nothing better than a good fight with a few dildos. En Garde!

Essin' Em

Get more info on $pread Magazine and the art show at Fleshbot.com

Movie Review: Suthern Cumfort

Suthern Cumfort

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Studio: Pulse Pictures Category: Potpourri

Who knew that the women down South were not only so friendly, but also so cute? This movie features many of the gorgeous girls of the alt-porn community, including Mika Tan and Riley Mason. They are ready and raring to go, and want to fuck here, there and everywhere, from staircases to trailers. Short shirts, cut up shorts, and barely there tops complete the slightly trashy aura that the director seemed to have been aiming for. There in not plot to be found, just balls to the wall (and the pussy) sex for a full two hours. Some of it is a little rough, there’s not that much kissing or cuddling, but if you like hardcore, straight up sex, then this is without a doubt a movie that you will love. Take some time to go down south and check out “Suthern Cumfort.”
-Essin’ Em

Betty Dodson shares all

Betty Dodson is my favorite sex positive, pro-masturbation, fabulous, sexuality loving woman. Here's a great interview with her that covers tons of different stimulating subjects from Queerness to SM to erotica to pornography, and much more.

She's been called the Mother of Masturbation and credited as one of the most important queer, sex-positive feminists in North America's sexual liberation movement.

Betty Dodson: In 1974 I came out in my book as a heterosexual-bisexual-lesbian. From then on, I was never asked about my sexual orientation. Until society accepts these variations of sex styles, or sexual preferences, none of us is free.

Interviewer: According to the Urban Dictionary the term "queer" has a wide definition including persons who are gay or lesbian, and/or transgendered; and/or are persons who engage in unconventional sex, bondage, bisexuality, or some form of crossdressing. Does this broad definition of queerness promote a more sex-positive society, do you think?

Betty Dodson: Absolutely! I love the term "queer." I agree that this broader definition is far more inclusive. Otherwise I'd have to say I'm a "heterosexual-bisexual-lesbian-SM-leather dyke-professional career masturbator." Phew! That's a mouthful. Some day I hope we will all just be "sexual."

In her honor, I vote we all all masturbate and/or have fabulous orgasms tonight, and raise our glass to the goddess that is Betty Dodson.

Essin' Em

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Movie Review: Cowgirl Dreams

Cowgirl Dreams

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Studio: Sex-Z Pictures Category: By Women

One word: Chaps. On women or on men, chaps are hot. There is just something about them, and I’m not sure what it is, but they’re incredibly sexy, and they make the first scene of this film that much hotter. Add some sex with nothing but cowboy hats and boots, and a little outdoor hanky panky down at the farm, and there you have “Cowboy Dreams,” a fun film with hot barnyard sex, directed by the well-known and talented Skye Blue. The only thing missing in my cowboy fantasy is sex on horseback, but other wise, I’m ready to let myself be wrangled. I really liked the first scene (partially because of the chaps), as well as the scene between the two ladies - I have a thing for glass dildos, as well as strap-ons, and I got two for the price of one. It’s a fun and fabulous film that makes me both home-sick for the ranches of Colorado, and horn-ily hoping for a cowboy or cowgirl of my own.
-Essin’ Em